I’ve been reading the book A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World by Paul E. Miller. It may prove to be one of the most significant books I’ve read perhaps because of the battle I fight with prayerlessness. Miller describes my heart at so many points it’s uncanny. Not only that, but he’s helping me peel back layers of dysfunction. Yesterday I read his chapter on “Bending Your Heart to Your Father”. Here’s an excerpt that spoke to my soul:
The connection between anxiety and continuous praying goes back to Eden, where Adam and Eve were in unbroken fellowship with God and continuous prayer was normal. When they sought independence from God, they stopped walking with God in the cool of the day and their prayer link was broken.
What does an unused prayer link look like? Anxiety. Instead of connecting with God, our spirits fly around like severed power lines, destroying everything they touch. Anxiety wants to be God but lacks God’s wisdom, power, or knowledge. A godlike stance without godlike character and ability is pure tension. Because anxiety is self on its own, it tries to get control. It is unable to relax in the face of chaos. Once one problem is solved, the next in line steps up. The new one looms so large, we forget the last deliverance.
Oddly enough, it took God to show us how not to be godlike. Jesus was the first person who didn’t seek independence. He wanted to be in continuous contact with his heavenly Father. In fact, he humbled himself to death on the cross, becoming anxious so we could be free from anxiety. Now the Spirit brings the humility of Jesus into our hearts. No longer do we have to be little gods, controlling everything. Instead, we cling to our Father in the face of chaos by continuously praying. Because we know we don’t have control, we cry out for grace. Instead of flailing around, our praying spirits can bless everything we touch.
David captured the connections between a humble heart and a quiet heart in Psalm 131.
O Lord, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me. But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child on its mother; like a weaned child is my soul on me. (verses 1-2)
We become anxious when we take a godlike stance, occupying ourselves with things too great for us. We return to sanity by becoming like little children, resting on our mothers.
What I like most about this book is its saturation with honesty. Miller helps me to honest about the states of disorientation I can feel in my relationship with God my Father. He’s willing to acknowledge the state of my heart that’s disquieted and restless without remaining there too long. By taking stock of God’s Word my heart will be re-orientated. Miller makes one last comment about this passage:
One of the unique things about continuous prayer is that it is its own answer to prayer. As you pray Psalm 131, your heart becomes quiet. You rest, not because there is magic in the words but because your eyes are no longer raised to high.